Lives Lives

Wakefield District Council believes a diverse workplace is vital to the intrinsic values of an organisation. Not only does this celebrate a wide range of characteristics including ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, and gender, it encompasses significant factors that include personality, background, interests, hobbies, talents, abilities, and experiences.

Sharing your story as part of an organisation helps build relationships, promotes understanding and unifies values. One to One Development Trust are working with Wakefield Council to recruit 15 participants that would like to be involved in ‘Lived Lives: The stories that make us’ a powerful collection of lived experience stories told through podcasts from people whose voices are often underrepresented, including employees from ethnic minorities, employees with disabilities, LGBTQIA+ employees and working carers.

The project is the start of what we hope is an ongoing celebration and acknowledgement of staff stories.

Lived Lives #1

I have worked for the council for about 9 months, as a white cis-gendered woman I would say on the whole that my identity and others like it are tolerated and even celebrated. However, I am often afforded more respect and understanding than other members of the wider LGBTQIA+ community.

There is a lot of general dismissal of people identifying as anything other than the binary male/female genders, and cis-gendered. I had a colleague say jokingly that he identified as an apache helicopter and another colleague saying he might like to identify as a rocket ship. This is demeaning and devalues the experiences and identities of marginalised people – contributing to feelings of shame and invalidation.

One colleague on hearing I have a same sex partner said ‘oh I assume you won’t be having children then’ this is a misconception with unspoken implications attached to it that someone in a same sex partnership shouldn’t have children – which is something that many same sex couples get told on a regular basis, either directly or through beliefs perpetuated through the media/churches/schools/ that inform our society and culture.

I have witnessed straight male colleagues ‘acting gay’ as in, limp wrists and other stereotypes - These harmful stereotypes form part of the ‘banter’ mentality prevalent in every workplace. The problem with these stereotypes and others like them is that they dehumanise the individuals they target and make them figures of ridicule.

A senior member of staff described another colleague to me as ‘gay, but not one to rub it in your face or go on about it’ - as though if you are anything other than straight the best thing you can do is to hide it so that you may appear ‘normal’, and not make your straight colleagues feel awkward.

Another colleague told me he thought that ‘men dressing up as women is fine, but what about when they want to use the women’s toilets?’ This is a persistent rhetoric in the general population, but this narrative has been repeatedly discredited and trans people are in fact statistically much more likely to be victims of abuse in bathrooms.

These experiences are common and on the face of it do not equate to outright homophobia but do reinforce a subtle sense of shame and feeling of difference that a person within the LGBTQIA+ community has to navigate every day.’

I would also like to say that most of my colleagues when hearing me talk about my same sex partner have been mostly respectful and positive.

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Frequently Asked Questions

We believe that by sharing experiences and encouraging others to hear people’s stories it promotes a culture of understanding and can help address negative stereotypical attitudes. If you agree with this and have an experience to share that you think is worth sharing, we look forward to hearing from you.

Submission Form

We suggest that you write your story out first in word or on paper then come back to it after a break and add in any reflections on what you have said, then when you are happy with it cut and paste or type it into this box.
Thank you. After submitting this form you will be contacted by One to One Development Trust to follow up creating your story for the podcast.